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from the other side | mommy & northern california photographer

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this is me, sitting where i so often sit, doing what i so often do. out of no where a few weeks ago i came upon the photo above that my five-year-old had taken of me. he’s a boy after my own heart, documenting the every day life around him. this image however really struck a cord. i look at it and see a stressed out, hard working, mama of two. my body language, facial expression – it tells the tale of someone who is just plain tired. what my danny saw was his mom, doing what she often does during a typical day, and in taking that photo he showed me something painful, but necessary.

i think sometimes it takes simply seeing a photo from the other side, for me to realize something so important… as i sit at my mac proofing photos, networking, doing back-end work for my other blog – my family sits nearby, and time continues to pass. my husband works, plays with our kids, watches tv. the boys build blocks and play star wars, we have dinner and we run errands, we go to the gym. am i being present for them like i should? am i keeping them priority in this day and age where we can’t go anywhere without being readily available, whether it is via iphone, facebook, email, twitter?

i can’t answer that honestly and with pride. this image brings me back. it haunts me really, and in posting it along with what’s on my heart, i hope it serves as a reminder. i don’t want my kids to grow up remembering mom sitting just like this. i want them to have wonderful memories of a mom not only blogged about them, but lived and loved and made them feel like they could do anything they wanted.

so it is with this photo that i embrace our new routine, work harder at keeping my work hours just that, and smile warmly at my messy-haired, hungry little boys as they awaken in the morning. don’t worry, i’m not going anywhere. just aiming for a new image from the other side. i’ll share soon : )

Tracey - Yep. That's me too. You couldn't have worded it any better! Working hard on being present with my family.

Tabitha - i understand completely...it is so easy to get caught up in work and let the world go on around you! i have been struggling with this very thing recently. of course you put it more eloquently than i ever could

Laura - I can relate to where you are at now, as I was there about 1 month ago. I vowed to myself and to my children then, that I would NOT do any proofing, email checking, blogging, etc. until they are fast asleep at night. My photo shoots are now going to take place during the week, I will reserve 1 weekend a month for shoots but the remaining weekends will be my kids, my family time. So far, 1 month in I have held to it...and I will continue to do so. It's difficult and hard running our own business but I'm not going to be the one that looks back on things 10 years from now and see that I missed out on my kids growing up. Yes, I want a successful business, yes I want to be happy with my photography but NONE of that is worth sacrificing my children for. I hope you are able to find your middle ground and will be happy. ((hugs))

Kelsey - Today actually just a few moments ago I posted about balance... finding it. This post hit home. You are so right and believe you aren't the only one fighting this too. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. xo

andrea - you are not alone my friend, you are not alone.

angie - thanks ladies. i am finding that i'm not alone in this struggle and that is comforting. here's to a better today! :) xoxo

jobrina - wow, this hits hard! thank you for posting this angie, i see myself in that picture and know now that this is exactly what my son see's as well. i have followed you for quit some time now and this is my first time commenting, you are extremely talented and someone i look up to as a beginner photographer. thank you for posting this, i too am going to be very conscious of my work hours and my family time, life it too short!!!!!! :-)

Amanda Hoffman - What a beautiful and insightful post. I need to change a lot of the way I do things. I'm struggling with what to do to change it. It's an endless process of reevaluation. Cost vs result. It's never as simple as it should be. In your mind you say it's an easy choice. Kids 100% over anything else right? But it's not always possible and that makes you feel guilty. Part of the reason I love this job is becasue I am my own boss. Still, sometimes, I wish I had a boss and set hours and I could leave my work at work. It's a trade off. You can never have it exactly how you think you want it. Getting close is as much as we can hope for.

Jocelyn - hi angie, i've been following your blog for a short while but this is my first time commenting. just wanted to say that i can so relate to this post and it's definitely something that i know i need to work on as well.

Joy - That was beautifully written. I definitely identify with every word you wrote. Thank you for sharing something so deep and personal.

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